Establishing and nourishing a passionate relationship rooted in safety and trust

HELLO DEAR COUPLE,

I am curious to hear your story and the truth of where you are at right now in your relationship. I have witnessed, heard and also experienced myself in relationship to my partner Maarten since 9 years now that relating is an ongoing process that will always need love, attention and care in order for it to grow and deepen. A healthy relationship is one where both individuals in the relationship as well as the partnership itself continue to rise into what it is capable of and meant to be. One that feels safe and passionate. Alive and solid. Together and alone. Playful and deep.

In order to establish and nourish such a relationship we need to do the inner work together as couples. Because truth be told, it is very likely that after the first couple of years of a relationship two individuals slowly drift apart. Connection and passion are replaced by comfortability and security. Adventure and spontaneity are replaced by predicability and routine. And this is often enlarged when having children. We need to want to work on deepening the connection and make the relating a priority. Every. Single. Day.

It is the most freeing thing in the world to be supported and encouraged to rise into the person you are meant to be while staying rooted and grounded in trust and safety. 

HOW DO WE DO THAT?

The radiant relating program is designed to support couples in establishing (if it has never truly been a healthy relationship) and nourishing (when the connection slowly starts to fade and there is need for more fire) a passionate relationship that is rooted in safety and trust.

Building safety and trust is essential for any relationship to be able to last. We do not create safety and trust overnight. It is built over the course of many moments shared, challenges faced and truth spoken and received. A relationship rooted in safety and trust is one where we can be the truth of who we are and are loved and valued in our totality. With all our thoughts, feelings, flaws, imperfections and fuck ups. It is one where we are mirrored and reflected what we still have to learn.

Passion is often there in the beginning, but harder to keep when rhythms, structures and dynamics are established in the relationship. It needs time, attention and courage to ignite the fire (again) and to keep the relationship fun, exciting and alive.

It is the courage to become vulnerable and to confront whatever is in the way of connection that is needed to build more trust and bring back the juice. Communicating consciously is a scary and uncomfortable process for anyone and it will never stop being so, but the reward is astonishing. It is a choice one has to make as a couple if you long for more depth, connection and passion in the relationship.

  • In a conscious relationship, your partner becomes a loving mirror, reflecting your true self back to you - your light, your shadows, your strengths, your struggles, your power and your brilliant flaws.

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  • Nothing remains untouched or unseen in this penetrating light. Everything is welcomed here to be embraced, digested, and transformed by love and in love.

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  • Your partner will see beyond the perfect image you present to the world. They will see the cracks in your armor, your imperfections, your concealed fears, and your deepest desires. They won't allow you to hide behind a wall of pretense because they believe in your potential and capacity.

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  • They will gently encourage you to step up, take responsibility, and face yourself and the world with integrity and truthfulness. They won't let you get away with lies or manipulations. They will call you higher.

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  • Honesty is at the core of all this, but it is not just about sharing your thoughts - it's about revealing your souls to each other, your tender hearts. You are invited to share the things that frighten you the most:

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  • The fears you've buried, the insecurities you've numbed away, and the parts of yourself you've kept hidden. Your addictions. Your obsessions. Your grief and your rage.

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  • This honesty is daunting, yet ultimately liberatimg. By bringing your whole self into the light, you begin to release yourself from the burdens of shame and illusion. You come out of hiding and allow yourself to be fully seen.

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  • And yes, each time you share yourself, it may feel scary. Your partner might reject you. They might shame you, ridicule you, or walk away - like your parents did, perhaps.

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  • Perhaps you've been hurt before in relationships, and there is a part of you that fears a repeat, a re-traumatisation. Your nervous system braces itself for impact.

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  • But each time you reveal your truth - each time you share your deepest self, your anger, your pain, your tears, and your joy - and they actually listen, and they stay, and you feel heard, held and forgiven in love, you begin to heal that wound.

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  • You weave new bonds of secure attachment and trust. The fear of abandonment fades. The fear of intimacy fades.

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  • This is how trust is built over time: Your partner doesn't just see who you pretend to be - they truly see the raw, real, vulnerable you. They see the cracks in you where your deepest wounds are, the bits of your life you've tried to hide,

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  • The creativity and joy that have always been waiting to shine through. They see your inner child, your dreams, your untapped potential, your beautiful heart, your ultimate goodness.

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  • They see who you are, who you were, and who you are becoming. And they love you - not despite your imperfections, but because of them.

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  • A conscious relationship will offer you comfort and pleasure, yes, but it also asks you to grow, to find your edges and limits and push them. It will ask you to rise into the person you are meant to be, the person you are truly capable of being.

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  • It will ask you to stop playing small and safe, to stop hiding behind what feels easy and superficial. Your partner will remind you that you are capable of so much more than you think:

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  • That you have the strength to step fully into your power and fully onto your life's path. And while that can feel terrifying and even overwhelming at times, it's also the most freeing thing in the world -

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  • To be supported and encouraged to soar like that while staying rooted and grounded in trust and safety. Yes, this is the wonderful paradox of true love: We stay rooted together, yet we soar.

    - Jeff Foster

To do the inner work together as partners to deepen the connection and reignite the fire in the relationship. To come together as couples to experience the support and (healing) power of a group setting when it comes to the challenges we face in our relationship. Where insecurities, fears and shame get air to breathe and real longing, needs and desires will surface from underneath. To rise into the people and couple you are capable of and meant to be.

A 6-WEEK PROGRAM

What is included

  • Group of max. 10 couples: We are all responsible for creating a safe container together for us to explore, share, grow and learn as couples

  • Every Monday evening 1,5 hrs Live Zoom meeting from 20:30-22:00 (6x)

  • Every week a homework partner inquiry (6x)

  • Ongoing community support via Whatsapp group chat

  • A 2-day weekend Cellular Transformation circle (May 30-31) with Kanika Frings and Sidhamo Flyr in de Meditatietuin from 10:00 - 19:00

  • Optional: A private couple session with Kanika and Sidhamo

  • Optional: A human design couple reading

What you can expect

  • An intimate journey with our partners and other couples sharing the struggles and challenges of relating on a weekly basis in a group setting

  • In -depth self-reflective inquiries exploring our thoughts, feelings, and experiences to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our way of relating

  • Embodiment practices to use the body and its sensations to enhance self-awareness, presence, and emotional regulation

  • Cellular Transformational process that teaches us to trust our own inner guidance system above all else. By incorporating deep listening, with various psycho-spiritual practices in dynamic group work aimed at exposing and healing blind-spots and re-awakening our inherent clarity and strength, we allow ourselves to become available for greater expansion and connectedness.

What you get out of it

  • An understanding of your attachment style and behaviour that is rooted in unresolved conflict from your own childhood

  • An embodied experience of how to release, hold and center yourself when these past emotions are triggered by the dynamic of the relationship

  • A practice of taking radical responsibility and ownership of your life and experience

  • Examples of practices and structures that support vulnerability and conscious communication

This if for you if

  • You love to learn and grow in connection as an individual and as a couple

  • You have a longing to be heard, seen and supported by other couples who might experience similar challenges in their relationship

  • You would like to understand more about yourself in relationship to your partner

  • You would like to break repetitive and destructive patterns within the relationship dynamic  

  • You would like to get in touch with and dare to share your true feelings and needs with your partner in a safe container.

€795 per couple

Early bird discount (booking before January 2026): €695 per couple

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