Raising our children not to behave, but to be themselves
HELLO DEAR PARENT,
We want what is best for our kids. Always. We want them to be happy. Without a doubt. We do whatever and whenever we can to make that happen. But very often in this doing (with all good intentions), our own unresolved childhood wounding is hidden that we project onto our little ones before we even realise it. In these moments of unawareness, we are not able to truly see and listen to the unique needs, longings and feelings of our children.
We want to raise great kids. We want them to be kind, to act appropriately in social settings, to be cautious, to eat healthy and cleanly, to brush their teeth, to have friends, to be successful, to take care of themselves and others. We want them to not scream in public and to give a hug to people we know. We want them to do and be so many things, because we love them unconditionally. But do we really?
Unconsciously what we really want for them, is to reflect something back to us. Our worth. Our success. Our healing.
What if how we want them to be(have) is not in congruence with who they are? What if our kids are not looking to be praised for how well they do something, but rather to be acknowledged for their efforts? What if their “inappropriate” behaviour is not to make our lives difficult, but a way to communicate their true needs?
Do we really and truly see our children and support them in growing up exactly who they are? Or do we often project our own longing, needs and fears onto them and therefore unconsciously compromise their authenticity, integrity and freedom in childhood? The deepest work of parenting is in releasing the weight of our own expectations. Letting go of the need for achievement to define their value. Because children don’t need to be great. They need to be whole. Free to become who they are, not who we hoped they’d be.
It is our job to never make our children have to give up their integrity and authenticity. The more successfully we do that, the greater the possibility that they will develop healthy self-esteem.
HOW DO WE DO THAT?
Although as parents we wholeheartedly say “Hell yes!” to this, it is easier said than done. Because in moments when our children trigger the hell out of us and do exactly the opposite of what we want them to do, it is challenging to not make them cooperate with us.
Radiant parenting, or parenting from the inside out, is based on the premise however that we as parents should always take responsibility for the situation and what it creates in us. Taking responsibility does not mean using authoritative power, punishment or any form of control. When children are faced with the choice to cooperate with their parents or give up their integrity, they will always disregards themselves (and loose self-esteem and authenticity as a consequence). If they don’t cooperate, they don’t do that to make our lives difficult, they do it to address unresolved stuff in us or to try to get their real needs met (which they are often not aware of). It is crucial for us parents to deal with our own childhood conditioning to create a healthier and more loving environment for our children to grow up and rise in full trust, resilience and authenticity.
We need to resolve the conflict of our own childhood conditioning so that we can be the role models our children need in order to live their lives full of trust, self-esteem, resilience and authenticity.
INSIDE OUT APPROACH
Looking at our triggers and challenges in parenting, taking responsibility for them and feeling the uncomfortable feelings they bring up from our own conditioning.
SEE clearly
EXPRESS authentically
Responding to our child’s triggering behaviour with boundaries rooted in clarity and calmness instead of reacting with ‘NO’ as an unconscious reaction to control the situation. Honouring our own and their authentic feelings and genuine emotions like frustration and anger by holding them, not trying to make them go away.
ACT responsibly
Truly listening to, seeing, loving and valuing our children for who they are. Moving from a praise and criticism paradigm to acknowledgement and attunement. Loving them as loudly as possible.
A 6-WEEK PROGRAM
To come together as parents, not to compare or judge, but to learn from, support and grow in parenthood. To share the most challenging and rewarding journey of our lives with each other. To feel seen, heard and held in all that parenthood brings up in us. To release and let go of our own childhood conditioning so that we can be the role models our kids need in order to live their lives full of trust, self-esteem, resilience and authenticity.
What is included
Group of max. 20 parents: We are all responsible for creating a safe container together for us to explore, share, grow and learn as parents
Every Monday evening 1,5 hrs Live Zoom meeting from 20:30-22:00 (6x)
Every week a homework (partner) inquiry (6x)
Ongoing community support via Group Whatsapp chat
A 2-day weekend Cellular Transformation circle (February 14&15) with Kanika Frings in Amsterdam from 10:00 - 19:00
On request: Deepening family session with Kanika or Sidhamo
On request: A family Human Design reading
What you can expect
An intimate journey with our partners and other parents sharing the highs and the lows of parenting on a weekly basis in a group setting
In -depth self-reflective inquiries exploring our thoughts, feelings, and experiences to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our way of parenting
Embodiment practices to use the body and its sensations to enhance self-awareness, presence, and emotional regulation
Cellular Transformational process that teaches us to trust our own inner guidance system above all else. By incorporating deep listening, with various psycho-spiritual practices in dynamic group work aimed at exposing and healing blind-spots and re-awakening our inherent clarity and strength, we allow ourselves to become available for greater expansion and connectedness.
What you get out of it
An understanding of your unconscious (reactive) behaviour that is rooted in unresolved conflict from your own childhood
An embodied experience of how to hold and center yourself when these past emotions are triggered by the behaviour of your children
Practical examples and cases of how to respond instead of react to triggering behaviour of our children
Practical examples and cases of how to truly see and value your children for who they are (from praise & criticism to acknowledgement & attunement)
This if for you if
You love to learn and grow in parenthood
You have a longing to share your experience with other parents
You would like to understand more about yourself in relationship to your child
You would like to handle difficult situations with or behaviour of your child in a constructive way
You would like your child to be freed of and spared from any negative or limiting self beliefs or patterns that you have struggled with and grow up with self-esteem, trust and resilience.
€795 per couple, €475 for single parent
Early bird discount (booking before November 2025): €695 per couple or €395 for single parent
Join us in the upcoming radiant parenting program
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